So, I traveled last week (for work) and sometimes when I do that, I’m super tired the week after. Most of the time I just plow right through whatever I have going on, but this time, I’m taking a few days to get right with the world and myself.
It is October and the light is changing and I can feel internal shifts in myself that lean toward hibernating and hiding. As planned, I’ve launched the “Friendship Project” in full force.
Here’s what it involves:
- Every Wednesday, from now until March 6th, I plan to have lunch with a different friend.
- This will keep me from completely isolating and surrendering to mercurial moods that tend to mirror the sun.
- This is also part of my business plan, cause I get to talk about my work every week to a smart woman who can give me feedback and ideas.
- But mostly, this is about friendship.
When we moved to the forest, four years ago this December, I left all my goodest friends in Virginia, an hour away.
That meant, every time I needed a friend, I made a four-hour journey to get there, visit and get home. As business picked up and roads became wintery, I stopped going.
Basically, I allowed myself to get too lonely. And then I got too sad. Every winter. Since the move. Each one progressively worse than the last.
That’s three terrible winters in a row. (Yes, I know about light boxes, thank you.)
So, a few months back, I started calling all these fabulous women I have met locally through work and explained what was going on and asked, “Will you be my friend? Can I put you down for some Wednesday from October through March?”
And, of course, they all said, “YES!!!!!”
Some of them are my clients, and some are not. Some of them are networking buddies, and some are not. Some are in recovery, and some are not. Basically, the group of them is a mish mash from all the different sectors of my life.
And I’ve blocked the ENTIRE Wednesday for the project, just in case I need to drive to them. I know this seems like an exorbitant use of time, but it’s so much better than the corrosive time suck of depression.
I’ll spend the rest of each Wednesday playing or planning, getting a massage, or writing in my journal.
One day a week dedicated to wellness and happiness.
If you go through the go throughs during the winter months, I invite you to try your very own Friendship Project.
(Oh, I’m writing about it in my upcoming book and we spend a whole month on it in Sabbatical 2017).
photo: flickr, pink sherbet photography