I LOVE to learn stuff. Well, I love to learn the stuff I want to learn. Other stuff (like sciencey stuff?), not so much.
The internet is kind of a drug for us Learning Addicts. There is ALWAYS some new Bright Shiny Object course, or book, or workshop or such to buy.
And, to me, they all sound delicious!!!
These days, though, my awareness of my own mortality is making a realist out of me. And I’m getting more particular, too.
Here at Life After Tampons, we are all helping each other achieve one primary goal. And that goal is to IMPLEMENT (notice I didn’t say just think about) but IMPLEMENT the answer to this one question,
“What would you do if you KNEW you could not fail?”
It seems I’ve been curious about this question my whole life. And, for the last couple of decades, I’ve been looking for my answer by asking you to share yours.
Strike that. That’s not quite true.
The truer truth is that I’ve been testing to see if my answer was right by asking you yours.
There. That’s less of a lie.
Pretty much, in all the years (decades?) that I’ve been helping folk get to their own inner truth, — pretty much EVERY time that I ask that question – women ALREADY KNOW what they’re supposed to do with their lives. They KNOW what is calling to them.
It’s just that, as soon as they acknowledge their dream, the VERY NEXT THING THEY DO is KILL IT.
You kill your dream by sending it murderous thoughts like these:
* OH, if ONLY I had the money to do blah, blah, blah.
* I wish I had the time to do blah, blah, blah.
* Who am I to think I could ever be successful at blah, blah, blah?
* So and so will never allow me to do blah, blah, blah. (If you say that one, you get a pillow smack upside your beautiful highlighted head, by the way.)
* If I did blah, blah, blah today, then blah, blah, blah would suffer, not get a nutritionally balanced supper, or fall into an unchecked cataclysmic failure spiral.
Even if you aren’t immediately killing your dream by sending it death thoughts, you kill it in this way –
You doubt your own ability to try.
Enter the Gurus.
Our dream is pretty important, and we don’t want to blow it. So we research it to death. And then we start buying stuff to fill the seeming gaping holes in our logic or skill set.
Here’s our thinking:
I need this guru to tell me how to get in shape. And I need this guru to tell me how to get my finances all set. And I need this guru to tell me how to organize my time. And this one here is going to help me de-clutter. This one over here is going to teach me how to network. And this one is going to teach me how to save my marriage. And this one over here is showing how to care for my kids/aging family members. This one is teaching me management skills . . . .
And on and on and on it goes.
Now, if you’re also a Learning Addict like I am, it kind of feels really great to find that new guru du jour. Maybe THIS time, we imagine, we’ll finally get a handle on __________ so that we can begin the really important work of ___________________.
But guess what, buttercup? We never seem to get back to the Big Dream that is uniquely ours. We spend all our time in the prep room and none in the Winner’s Circle.
Well, Sweet Pea, here is what I suggest we all do. Let’s take a 21-day moratorium on Bright Shiny Objects. During these three weeks, let’s each take some time to clear away whatever is blocking us from our own “sunlight of the Spirit.”
If you find yourself twitching from the idea of withdrawal, you could get our eRetreat “Reclaim the Sass” 21-day guide. See floral afro lady at top of this page. But even with this, be careful. The retreat is lovely and it will give you a small entry point for Daily Spirit, but I can’t be your guru either.
Let’s take a break from gurus and take a deeper dive into honing our own internal guide. Let’s develop the quality of discernment of others and trust for self.
In the meantime, I’ll keep making lovely words and visions for you and you can keep sharing your own wisdom back.
We have an AWESOME mega-post next week on FEAR and you won’t believe the Wisdom Circle I have gathered for you on that.
Please keep sharing your beautiful progress with us on our LAT Facebook page. That seems to have become our play space.
Photo: Flickr, Jorge Bassy