If you’ve been with us for a little bit, you know that the primary objective of our work here at Life After Tampons is to help women implement the answer to this question, “What would you do if you knew you could not fail?”
If you read that first paragraph too quickly, you might have skipped over the most important word – or at least the one that feels most important to me to share with you today.
A lot of people think the most important word is “what.” That’s usually because, by the time a woman gets to mid-life she might have lost track of herself and then have no clue what “what” would be.
But the problem with making the “what” question the most important one, is that it comes with the risk of analysis paralysis. The danger is that it is so easy for a woman to get caught up in the “process” of answering that question – via research, exploration, and the like – that she never gets to actually launch anything new.
And, if you have even the slightest trace of perfectionism to your personality, you are even more vulnerable to the problem of thinking versus doing.
The word I want to talk about today is “IMPLEMENT.”
Our goal here at LAT is to IMPLEMENT – to create change, make waves, shake things up, take that first step, lace up your shoes, jump in the deep end, register for that race, buy that plane ticket, write that book today.
THIS is the ideal day to ride the pony, enter your blackberry jam at the fair, audition for the local play, throw a pot, make a dinner party, hold a fundraiser for your favorite candidate – hell — BE the candidate.
This IS THE DAY, beautiful you, to MAKE a noise, make a ruckus – IMPLEMENT some change in your life.
It’s so easy to fall back into what we know, even if it doesn’t serve us.
Here’s something many of us know – strategic planning.
Strategic planning murders dreams.
It shouldn’t, because it’s an awesome tool. The problem with it is that we women, when it comes to CHANGING OUR OWN ACTUAL LIVES, get lost in planning and never get to the doing.
Or we start doing and we are so hyper-vigilant watching outcomes that we wrongly suppose we are off-target and pull the plug on the dream before it has a real chance to get off the ground (that one’s one of my particular favorites.)
Today, I’m suggesting we take a different approach.
What if — just for today — you just began where you are right now? What if you didn’t have any plan at all, except for this – “Today I plan to approach my day with a spirit of exploration. I’m going to try one new thing today and see how that feels. I’m also going to let go of one thing that I don’t want to do.”
And then, just go about your regular old day.
Do your one new thing and let go of your one sucky thing. Neither one has to be very big – but it’s certainly okay if they are.
Here’s where we get to the magic.
Because guess what, buttercup, tomorrow we are going to do the exact same thing.
Tomorrow we’re going to wake up together (you in your town and me in mine) and we’re going to do one MORE new thing and let go of one MORE sucky thing.
That’s it. Say “yes” to one thing and say “no” to another.
No plan. No “what if” scenarios. No budget. No training. No great big block of time needed.
Just one “yes” and one “no.”
At first it won’t feel like you’re accomplishing anything at all. But here’s the thing – sweet cheeks – over time – and before you even know it – you’re going to be making bigger and bolder and badder ass moves because it FEELS SO GOOD to live your big beautiful life.
Once you’re ready to make a bolder move, THEN you can think about planning and resources and what not. Because THEN you will be so caught up in the joy of living, you won’t be able to imagine not doing the thing you want to do.
I want to help you. I want to SEE your big beautiful dream come alive. I want to HEAR the joy in your voice and FEEL the excitement of you giving your gift to the world. I want to coach you to your dream, so I’m launching a new Hot Flash Quick Start coaching service. (You can find out the details here.)
For today though, we begin. Right now. Implement something. And because we all need some accountability, let us know in the Wisdom Circle comments below what you tried, what you let go of, and how the whole thing felt.
We’re doing it together.
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