Thank you to everyone who participated in our survey last week.
It’s really so AWESOME to lead this midlife reinvention project for women like you! (For example, the response rate to our survey was SEVEN TIMES the national average for that kind of thing. You all are super-involved ninja mid-life warrior mavens. So cool!)
At any rate, a few things are REALLY REALLY clear from your responses.
1. You really, really really want to move forward toward your very OWN dream.
2. Stuff is holding you back.
3. You’d like some “Ask Jen” time to get past those road blocks.
Here’s what we’re gonna do:
I’m launching an “Ask Jen” series to answer your questions about midlife reinvention. Starting in May — which is NEXT week, in case you’re in menopausal calendar drift – we’re gonna add an experimental Q&A series to our space.
Our experiment is designed to solve your unique challenges – the ones that hold YOU PERSONALLY back from fully expanding into the Second Journey life you want.
Rather than run the series in a “hit or miss” fashion, we’re going to take a deeper dive into a really dogmatic issue, so that you can really, really, for REAL, tease out effective strategies for overcoming the stuff that holds you back.
To do this, I’m organizing our series in a “Tag. You’re IT!” daisy chain fashion.
What that means is that I’ll begin with a piece that solves a really tricky challenge and then I’ll open our virtual floor (via our Wisdom Circle comment section) for your follow up questions.
I’ll select one or more of those questions, and then help you solve that problem in the next “episode” of the series.
If we were running our series on daytime television, we might call it “As the Menopausal Burns.”
So what topic are we playing with in May?????
The one you asked for.
In our survey, you told me that your biggest barrier to change was – HANDS DOWN – FEAR.
Yes, yes, yes. I HEAR you!
Fear is primal. It’s actually hard-wired into us.
That’s because a zillion hot flashes ago, our Wisdom Circle foremothers had to out-run that crazy-ass T-Rex.
Fortunately, our T-Rex problem isn’t real anymore. BUT, that pesky little hair-trigger fear-trigger is alive and well in our lizard brain.
Our fear translates “change” and “risk” as “T-Rex in drag.”
Much of the time, our fears aren’t always real, in that they are actually true. But our lizard brain doesn’t get that. To our hard-wired brain, EVERY fear is REAL.
So, we begin our series with strategies, tips, and really really kick-ass solutions for putting that T-Rex boogey man back in the dinosaur museum where he belongs.
I find that the best way to teach someone how to do something is through demonstrating our new skill in action.
So, I begin our series with me, overcoming one fear – and showing you how I’m doing it. The fear I’m overcoming is adding new technology to our space.
So, I made a video. It’s got a really, really good Jen-like message. But it’s not as prettily perfect as I wanted it to be. My hair’s not perfect. I don’t like the way my neck looks. I say “um” a few times and stumble over one or two words.
By the way, that’s my new nose ring. And when I replay the video, sometimes the image and my words are out of sync. I’ll have to figure that out, too.
The point is, to overcome your fear, you just have to GET STARTED. You have to be willing to be seen as a “newcomer” and you have to just decide that you don’t mind showing your ass just a little.
To”overcome” something you have to “come over” and just get started.
So, here’s my very first Life After Tampons imperfect video. It’s really, really short, because we work in Baby Steps on new stuff.
After you watch the video, ask away!!!
In the Wisdom Circle space below, share with us what today’s lesson sparks for you about overcoming fear. (I’d be really okay if one or two of you says something nice about my neck, or my hair, or the imperfect way I make the “sssss” sound.)
I’ll pick one or two of your “Ask Jen” questions and answer them next time.
You are SO IT!