These days I’m trying a bunch of new stuff. And sometimes, when I’m trying a bunch of new stuff, my mind starts messing with me. Mostly, it tells me I need a nap.
So, sometimes I take the nap instead of doing the thing I need to do.
Except sometimes, the VERY NEXT TIME, I’m supposed to work on the thing I KNOW I WANT TO achieve, it seems like I ought to “clear my head” and go to a movie or something.
You know, to get a blank slate upon which to work.
So, sometimes I go to the movie.
And that’s cool.
Except sometimes, the THIRD time I’m supposed to work on the new thing I want to happen in my life, I decide that we really need some healthy groceries in the house, or I really ought to clean out my email files first – you know, to clear the decks before I get started.
I seem to like my slates blank and my decks cleared.
So, about the third time I’ve put something off, after I’m rested, entertained, and noshing on some anti-oxidants while looking at my pristine Outlook files, it occurs to me that what I’m really doing is NOT DOING.
Oh, my “not doing” is all dressed up in Self-Care Drag, but really, truly what I’m doing is NOT doing.
Because I have dread.
Of the new thing.
I dread getting going. I dread having to “waste” time on learning curves and such.
A really slick way I procrastinate around my dread of learning curves is “research.” I’ll just read and read and read about how other people are successfully doing the thing I am NOT doing, though it will feel like I am “sort of” doing the real thing. I’m living my dream vicariously. Well, actually, I’m lurking in the background of OTHER people living THEIR dream, but that’s close, right?
Last week, we talked about the “near beer of happiness.” When you procrastinate by reading about other people doing the thing you are not doing, but want to do, you get the “near beer of accomplishment.”
It locks you into inaction. It locks you into “sort of” achieving your dreams. It locks you into being a spectator in your own life.
So, here’s what I suggest we try today.
Let’s begin with the thing we dread most. But just give it 5 minutes of effort. It’s amazing how that first 5 will unbar the door of willingness that dread has locked.
Give it a whirl. And let us know in the Wisdom Circle space below what you dreaded, what you did, and how it went.
Go ahead, love. Unlock that door and cross that threshold to your own beautiful life.
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