I wrote a really gorgeous piece for you today. This isn’t it.
As I was putting the finishing touches on that piece, I had to stop and write this for you first because the idea was relentlessly screaming in my head that I just absolutely HAD to share with you my week so far.
When you read it, be careful not to think that this piece is about me.
It’s about what happened in my life in just the last few days. BUT, the piece is about Beautiful You. Because what I hope to teach you how to do this week is PERSEVERE in the face of adversity.
To be sure, this has been a trying week so far. But, honestly, it wasn’t even CLOSE to the week from hell. Believe me, I KNOW that week.
Still, it wasn’t that many years ago that a week like this would have completely shut me down with respect to my Big Dream.
The week I just had would have completely made me doubt what the HELL I was thinking to even have a dream.
And I KNOW (because you have told me) that some of you have this same self-destruct button, too.
So, feel my pain. And then, USE it to HEAL YOURS!!
Here are the HIGHLIGHTS of the LOWLIGHTS of the last few days. (click to tweet):
Saturday and Sunday: Some of you know that I ordered a hot tub when we moved. It was the ONE thing I wanted just for me and felt like such a crazy-superfluous but totally self-loving treat coming off of several years of broke ass single parenting. Well, the gentlemen who delivered the tub studied with the Keystone Cops.
What should have been a one-hour process, extended to an EIGHT hour fiasco. In the end, they dropped the thing, cracking the exterior of the tub and damaging the side of our new home. All of this was going on while I was meeting a publishing deadline for my web mistress and trying to make family time because they are a CRITICAL component of my Big Dream.
After all that, the electrician hooked the tub up (only the decorative outer wall is cracked, so it is usable.) He hooked it up and left while I filled it with water. BUT, when it came time to turn the damn thing on . . . crickets. It was absolutely inoperable! Worse, it was well below freezing here all weekend. So, now we have a crazy-expensive tub filled with water that runs throughout all its internal pipes and such that can’t be heated in sub-freezing weather.
I realize this is a prosperity problem, but that isn’t the point. The POINT is that I invested in ONE THING that I wanted as part of my Victory Lap for surviving my single parent years. They broke it before I could even use it and then broke our house in the process. By Sunday evening, all was resolved, but that was the backdrop for my business goals over the weekend.
Monday and Tuesday: My office doesn’t have a door. It’s in the rec room on the lower level at the bottom of the kitchen stairs. The no-door thing is a problem. I need quiet to do the work I do. And I live with men. And when you don’t have a door, people sort of think you are always available, even if you tell them otherwise. (By the way, I ADORE my guys and The Italian. BUT, I also need lots of quiet solitude to get the good stuff to you.)
Okay, so I’m on it! All day Monday and half of Tuesday I was working right next to a contractor who was installing my beautiful new door. So, while I’m finishing a book, meeting with designers and tech folks, and trying to shine as a radio guest, there was banging, sawing, dry walling, sanding, etc. Did I mention the circular saw grinding outside the room while I was in the middle of a radio interview?
Tuesday: The dog needed a bath. I know that doesn’t sound like much. But, if you live in the Magical Enchanted Forest with a Golden Doodle love muffin, you know that your dog is essentially a dust mop for the entire forest floor. Two hours, three tubs of water, five towels, a half-hour under the blow dryer. A complete family job. You get the picture.
Tuesday: While I was on the phone doing my radio interview, I accidentally disconnected my headset from the phone. I do this dumb-ass tech mismanagement stuff ALL THE TIME. So, um, PANIC!!! I mean, I’m on the DAMN RADIO!
My radio host, Sandy Weiner, is continuing blithely, because of course she doesn’t know that I’m not actually on the line with her. Of course, my damn trifocals weren’t nearby and I couldn’t SEE WHERE THE DAMN hooky up thingy was.
(flounder, flounder, flounder, try not to cry, flounder, think “fuck fuck fuck in your head over and over again)
Then, finally, GRACE! Somehow I found the connection and came back on the line just as she was asking me the next question. By the way, that was the funnest ever conversation with Sandy Weiner of Last First Date. You can listen to it here if you want.
Wednesday: While I was at the High School yesterday to meet with my older son’s people, the Middle School called.
My younger son got so dizzy in class they had to fetch him in a wheelchair. His headache was an 8.5 out of 10. We’re new here and haven’t made it to the top of the local pediatrician’s waitlists, so off we go to Urgent Care. They sent us to the Emergency Room at the local hospital. My poor little guy was absolutely terrified. Crying. In pain. And I’m doing the totally-ninja-calm-mom-thing.
It all turned out okay (he had a really bad case of chronic sinusitis) but it was a HUGE scare. And whether my family is sick or not, I still have (largely self-imposed) deadlines to meet. (I know that I can change those deadlines, by the way, but how many of you can relate to the problem of letting yourself off the hook so many times you never come back to your dream?)
Into the Solution I Go!!
Okay, so this was the first HALF of my week. And it wasn’t even the week from hell. Nevertheless, I accomplished the following with respect to my Big Dream:
- I have nearly completed the companion workbook that will come FREE to you (if you are a subscribed reader) when my book launches in a couple of weeks.
- I had a terrific radio interview.
- I made several important connections to people I need to know for the next phase of my work.
- I strategized with my editor and designer/tech maven about the launch in two weeks.
- I was invited to write two really KILLER guest posts for other top bloggers.
- I registered for an important workshop for next week.
- I made a KEY connection that I can’t even talk about now.
- I created and conducted an IMPORTANT reader survey because I’m about to launch a special, subscriber-ONLY free service. (If you want to get those goodies, you have to sign-up by following this link.)
- Oh, and I stood up to a bully.
Phew! These are just the highlights of the work I was able to complete in the last few days with all the craziness swirling around me.
And I’m sharing it with you because I want you to KNOW that you can triumph even when tough stuff happens. You CAN AND MUST keep moving forward, even when unexpected stuff flares up.
DON’T QUIT. Lower Your Standards if need be. (click to tweet)
But keep moving forward!
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photo: flickr, jd hancock, again. I love that guy’s work!