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The other night I was meeting with a younger woman in my service group.  I agreed to help her with some stuff related to spiritual principles, growth, and such.

At the very end of the meeting, right after I agree to work with her, she says to me, “ . . . and I want you to know that I’m not a balker.  If you tell me to do something, I’m going to do it.”

And I responded, “Well, that’s the first problem we’re going to fix.  What makes you think you can’t balk at ideas that feel wrong to you?”

In the category of ‘is it odd or is it god,’ I “coincidentally” received an email from one of the women I follow spiritually.  Susan Piver, creator of The Open Heart Project, sent me a link to an interview she had with Josh Baran, a PR guy for people like the Dalai Lama.  In the interview, he spoke about taking responsibility for being a “spiritual adult.”

(Susan offers two levels of membership — there is a free offering, where you get lots of amazing meditation and spiritual teachings.  And there is a for-fee “practitioner” level where you get lots of other amazing stuff like the interview with Josh.  I’m not an affiliate of Susan’s work, so no ulterior motive here.  But I hope you will check her out if it feels right.)

So, back to the concept of Spiritual Adulthood.  Let’s explore what that might look like with respect to our work here at LAT.

Here’s my commitment to you – when you come to my site, you are a guest in my virtual home.  I will make a figurative pot of coffee (or, tea, of course) and we will sit down together and talk about the stuff that holds you back from your own best life.  And I will do my best to give  you what you need to make the changes required.

Here is your commitment to yourself – you will be as honest with yourself as you can about what is the truest truth about what holds you back.  You will seek to grow in the areas that that realization reveals.  At the same time, you will seek to grow in self-trust/Source-trust.

I am a professional trouble-maker.  You bring me in when you need to recover from some trouble, or you need to create some.  In other words, I’m your girl when you need to make a Breakthrough and then craft your own personal Comeback Journey.

That’s my Secret Sauce. And I’m really REALLY good at it.

You have your own Secret Sauce.  And I can help you find that.  But always, always, ALWAYS you are your own best guru.  If someone suggests something to you that feels “off,” take a breath and consider why that is so.

Have they triggered a defense you’ve put in place to protect some wounded part of yourself that you are afraid to reveal but MUST in order to grow?  Or are they just talking crazy.  But, since “everyone” else digs the current guru-du-jour, you are wondering what the hell is wrong with you that you are a doubter.

In other words, are you a balker?

I hope so.

Here at Life After Tampons, we celebrate the kid at The Emporer’s New Clothes parade — the one who pointed out the Chosen One’s nakedness. (click to tweet)

Not because we’re mean.  But because we are loving seekers of truth.  Here’s why — The truth is the bottom-line starting place for what you need to do next.  Here at Life After Tampons, we start with the truth and build from there.

We are denial busters.  We seek to overcome our challenges and we start with the Beautiful Truth.  I want to help you do that, and if this feels right to you, please contact me here so we can begin.

And please remember this — true spiritual leaders don’t want idolatry.  They simply, humbly want to offer what they have at their disposal in service to others.

So, when it is warranted, balk away, baby.

Seek to grow along spiritual lines – please challenge yourself to move beyond your broken parts, because these things are likely getting in your way.

But at the end of the day, be your own guru.

Those of us who practice an integrated spiritual approach to business and life don’t want worshippers.  It’s not good business.

And it’s not what’s best for humanity, either.

Love, Jen

P.S.  Here’s that link again for how we could work together.

photo: flickr, entirelysubjective