I was going to write about what a wonderful time of year it is. But then, I couldn’t think of a second sentence.
That’s because these weeks of societal scripted celebration don’t seem any more joyous than any other season of my life.
The truth is EVERY time of year has become wonderful for me. I can’t believe I even get to write this – truthfully – because it seems like I was always the person waiting for this or that situation to pass before I could REALLY take a meaningful turn in my own life and build a life that mattered to me.
It was my job to make everyone else’s way easier.
I don’t know if society teaches girls to live this way, and – honestly – I am no longer interested in going down that rabbit hole of pointless naval-gazing. You can lose whole long years talking about how “unfair” shit is.
Unfair to whom?
I always had food and shelter and education. I had access to healthcare. My kids always had schools and shoes, so what the hell do I need to complain about?
On the other hand, I’ve learned to be very careful with that line of thinking, too. Sometimes we stay stuck because we feel bad for wanting more.
I don’t feel bad.
I wanted more.
Or, rather, I wanted “other.”
Or, rather, I wanted “also.”
YES! That’s what I wanted. I wanted my family and our blessings but I ALSO wanted to build something important.
Something no one else could do.
Something that had my creative DNA all over it.
I just didn’t know what that thing was.
Oh, I knew it had something to do with speaking. I FEEL so magical and TRANSPORTED in front of a group. More than that, I feel a kind of magical shaking at my center that feels like TRUTH coming through me.
Not my truth, though, my experience is an important part of the work.
But THE truth. I can feel the Spirit of Grace or something coming through me.
(Good Lord, I hope we have loved each other long enough for me to confess that!)
Oh, well, there you have it.
Anyway, when I work with groups, I can FEEL some energy that feels — HUGE – coming through me. My job is to stay spiritually fit so my ego can edge just a bit to the side to allow that to happen.
And, to work my ass off testing and retesting my work to make sure it WORKS – that I’m not just pimping a load of crap.
Anyway, for a couple of years now, since I began to crack the code on how women at midlife are in the IDEAL position to make changes that stick, I have been – not just happy. Nope, though happiness does visit often.
What I’ve been is CONTENT. I’ve been peaceful, serene, and absolutely CERTAIN that I am on the “right” path at long last.
The truth is, I probably could have done it sooner. But fear and sometimes resentment kept me stuck. I also had a little dollop of that victim thing going on, too.
So, what does that mean for Beautiful You?
Well, when I started Life After Tampons, I wanted to achieve TWO basic goals.
1. I wanted Life After Tampons to be a key source of tools, inspiration, hope, and community to any woman who wanted to change her life – REGARDLESS of her ability to pay anything.
2. I wanted to completely rebrand the way the world thinks of women at midlife. I wanted the world to change. I wanted “them” to give “us” value. But I quickly saw the error in that objective.
It’s not “they” who need to change.
It is WE.
WE need to change. WE need to rethink our own self-worth.
And then, WE NEED TO ACT!
With a clear mind and sound tools and tested STRATEGIC methods.
Goal Number 1 is already well under way. If you want to change your life, whether you and I ever work together directly or not, you can benefit from the HUNDREDS of blog posts I’ve created for Beautiful You. If you’re stuck, you can read – and IMPLEMENT – the ideas in my free book, Breakthrough, and you can join our community and get your free strategic Comeback QuickStart.
My work now shifts to Goal Number 2. I want to find a bigger way to spread the message of hope to women who haven’t found us yet.
I’m going to play a bigger game. Phew. I said it.
I’ll share more with you in the coming weeks. For now though, I did want to share one “aha” I’ve had since creating our strategic comeback system, Your Midlife Insurrection™:
In creating your own personal Insurrection the only thing you need to overthrow is . . .
. . . Yourself.
Peace on Earth. Viva la Resistance!
P.S. The final Insurrection group of 2013 starts next week. If you’re interested, email jen at firstname.lastname@example.org ASAP. There won’t be another group until February 2014.
photo: flickr, judibird