Earlier this year I invested a BOAT-load of money (think half an SUV or a year of my kid’s tuition) in a training program that WAS NOT a good fit for me.
So now, five months before the 12-month program ends, I’m quitting. (No money back, by the way – them’s the rules when you go into this sort of thing.)
Besides that, the money is irrelevant. My precious time is not.
I’m moving on.
I’m not wasting one more minute.
I’m investing my energy elsewhere.
I made a mistake. I had clues from the very beginning that the culture and value system of this group was not a match for me. But I IGNORED my own best knowing. (I hate when I do that.)
Lots of people love the program I invested in. They have done some remarkable things for some of their clients. But, I don’t like the way they get what they want. And that really, REALLY bothers me.
For me, in building my own business, the ends DO NOT justify the means.
Since I ignored my own best knowing, I can’t really be unhappy with them. So, no sour grapes. I’m simply moving on. Quietly. (Well, unless you count this great big GLOBAL blog post.) I’m not wasting any more of my precious TIME with this.
I’ve learned, over the last couple of years, that my TIME investment is WAY more important than my CASH investments. I can always get more cash. I can NEVER get more time.
Not one more second.
When I think about how I spend my precious time these days, I am reminded of an investment rule that I learned way back in undergrad: I practice “Gresham’s Law.” For those of you without a Finance minor, Gresham’s Law, basically says this: “Don’t throw good money after bad.” (Click to Tweet)
In other words, if you’re investing in something, and it becomes clear that your investment was not a good one, do not continue to throw more money at the situation hoping things will improve.
Throwing “good” money (in other words money you STILL HAVE) after “bad” money (money that is already lost) is NOT SMART. It’s not STRATEGIC.
The same goes for your TIME.
If you’ve invested your precious time in something, and things are not working out, don’t throw any more “good” time (time you still have) at the “bad” time (time that is forever lost to Beautiful You.)
As we get older, this becomes even more critical. Let’s face it: For most of us, there are more years behind us than ahead of us.
There simply isn’t time left to pretend like there’s still time left to waste.
We don’t have time to pretend like we will always have time.
For me, here’s how I want to spend my time:
I want to be with my wonderful family. I want to be with Beautiful You. I want to be with my colleagues who inspire and support me. And I want to be with my dear friends.
I don’t do business with anyone else. In fact, I personally interview everyone I agree to work with. We are going to spend some significant time together. I want to make sure we dig each other.
I’ve put my stake in the ground and I want to encourage you to do the same.
If something you continually do does not give you an adequate return on your time investment (via happiness, satisfaction, cash, enjoyment, or the like) STOP doing it.
And, I’m even gonna get really really brave and say this, “If Life After Tampons is NOT giving you what you need to make the changes in your life you want to make, please MOVE ON.”
Find another mentor.
Unless you just can’t.
Because I’m fun.
And cheerful. (Ha!)
If what you find here isn’t HELPING you… Let. It (me). Go!
Most of us can’t make the important changes we want to make without help. (Otherwise, we would have done it already.)
That means you need help. You need a mentor.
If that isn’t me, unless you’re reading LAT just for kicks — which I completely get, by the way — you need to find someone else to help Beautiful You.
So, if LAT isn’t working for you, please email me and let’s set up a time to talk. I know a lot of great coaches, and I’d love to point you elsewhere.
If, on the other hand, I’m your girl, let’s get to work. Let’s talk about your own personal Insurrection.
Either way, the same email works, and I PERSONALLY answer EVERY email sent to me: jennifer@lifeaftertampons.
Stop looking for love – and help – in all the wrong places.
P.S. The last Insurrection group of the year starts Monday, December 16. The next Insurrection group does not start until February 2014. email me for details: firstname.lastname@example.org
Photo: flickr, FABIOLA MEDEIROS