I hope you’ll be patient with me for just a sec. I’m gonna kinda sorta talk about Beautiful Me for just a moment and then I’m gonna swing over to you and bring us all together in a great big virtual chorus of amazing women.
This past weekend was a Game Changer for me. I was invited to speak at the Instigator Experience, a conference of and for other “makers” – people who are creating high-impact projects.
I hope Life After Tampons is one of those.
At any rate, I learned so much from the amazing people who spoke. Kamal Ravikant urged us to be “inappropriate.” Justine Musk reminded me that, for a writer, reading is the inhale, writing is the exhale. Meg Worden pointed out that I have an actual body to live in and that I should practice “letting the world come to me” instead of rushing headlong into everything I do. This was especially important to me because, as you’ll recall, I’ve always kinda sorta felt like my body was just a transportation device to take my mind from one interesting thing to the next.
Erika Lyremark has the sexiest brain, and I really enjoyed her book, Think Like a Stripper. Greg Hartle was perhaps the most genius business advisor I’ve ever met. Melissa Cassera was completely infectious as she talked about making our work a “guilty pleasure.” And AJ Leon made a compelling case for why “misfits” are changing the world.
The Instigator Experience is a “must” for creative entrepreneurs and I can’t thank organizers Srini Rao and, again, Greg Hartle, enough for an amazing event. You can subscribe to their Unmistakable Creative podcast here. (By the way, I am NOT an affiliate for this project, but when something is this great, I feel like I have to share it with you.)
Truly, The whole thing was magical.
My topic was Orchestrating Your Own Breakthrough. I took a big risk and decided to bring my flute and play part of my presentation. It was a HUGE hit and I sort of felt like a peri-menopausal star was born.
I’ve spoken at lots of events, but this one – the one that brought music into the picture, was a first for me. I wasn’t prepared for how “complete” I would feel afterwards. I felt like I brought my whole self to the experience. And I didn’t realize how important that would be to me.
Before this weekend I just couldn’t figure out how to bring the musical piece of myself to my work. So, even though I’ve been a musician for 41 YEARS, I just left this part of myself out.
Here’s the “you” part:
I’m curious to learn if you shave little bits of yourself off because you think they don’t belong or you can’t make them “fit.” Do you hold yourself back when it’s your turn to shine? Are you afraid you’ll look silly? Or, stuck up?
After my talk, I felt ensconced in a circle of love from those in the audience. I had prepared for weeks for this talk, and it felt so amazing to get a good reception. I think of all the times in my life where I held back, and I want to vow to do less of that.
This weekend, surrounded by mostly younger people I was reminded of this: There is certainly power in youth – there is vitality, freshness, sex appeal. But a woman’s power as she ages is in the wellspring of gorgeous WISDOM that comes when she commits herself to culling ALL the learning she can from a life well-lived: a life replete with beauty, dark, light, joy, sorrow.
I was reminded this past week that, when we bring all of that to our daily work, we truly make an impact like no other.
Wisdom is HOT. A woman owning the fullness of her power is a thing of beauty.
My question for you is this: How can you bring more of yourself to this day’s work? How would you fully expand into your life if you allowed yourself to do so?
Photo: Flickr, Robert Couse-Baker