With Deepest Thanks. Adieu.


Dearest One,

With deepest appreciation I extend my deepest thanks for all that you have given to me these past five years.

You’ve given me your attention.
You’ve given me your truest hopes.
You’ve given me the depth of your wisdom.
You’ve given me your trust.

And I am so very grateful.

I’ve decided to go in a different direction for the next year, and so Life After Tampons is going to go dark for 2017.

If I can be of service to you during this year, please let me know. You can just hit “reply” to this message and I’ll be there.

I wish for you every beautiful thing for the coming year. Every beautiful dream. Every beautiful wish. Every beautiful memory.

All of it.
Coming to you.

Thank you for the all of the all of it.

Yours in love and service,

Jennifer Boykin

photo: woodleywonderworks, flickr

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What Futility Looks Like


Making cookies at Casa Jen:
First the dog ate the pound of butter coming to room temp on the counter (with wrappers).
Then the dog puked everywhere all day.
Cleaned up puke.
Cleaned up puke.
Cleaned up puke.
Then made cookies.

Then dog ate the cookies.

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Becoming a Warrior of Hope


The world feels completely bat-shit crazy right now.
Cause it kinda completely is.

If you’re going to survive the crisis — and you are, my love — you are going to have to fiercely protect the pathway to your heart.

Here’s what makes that tricky: most of us want to DO something about the somethings around us.

Here’s what makes that tricky: on a global scale, most of us don’t have any power to effect change.

Here’s what makes that tricky: we know it. And yet, we still FEEL it.

In times of crisis, it’s helpful to revert to the basics: supper, loving exchanges with whomever we meet, giving where and when we can, and LETTING GO of those damn things we cannot change.

Which are legion, by the way.

Here’s what makes that tricky: not everyone around us believes in approaching life the same way we do. And, as we already know, the world is completely bat-shit crazy right now.

So, even if you have healthy coping practices, you are gonna face an almost continual assault by those who don’t.

And here’s what makes that tricky: we actually LOVE some of those people.

And so, they have access – proximal access to our hearts.

But remember, you’re protecting your heart from harm.

So, at the same time you are pouring love out of your heart, you have to close access to the deepest regions of your heart lest others who don’t intend to cause actual harm.

But here’s the thing, love: Hope REQUIRES us to feel the love and reject the fear.

So you’re gonna have to surround yourself with Warriors of Hope. (That’s “warrior” – NOT “worrier.”

Worry never ends well. Those who invest in it don’t understand the value of spiritual muscle. They are, ironically and unintentionally,  “hope rejectors.”

We can love them. But we need to think twice before we let them stomp around on all those tender parts.

I know, I know.
That’s tricky.

Love, Jen

photo: flickr, Kate Ter Haar

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When You’re Worried about Money


So, lately I’ve been worried about money. Cause that’s the next thing on the list, I suppose. And cause it’s Christmas and of course, the car needs stuff and the dogs need vet visits, and there’s the dentist and oral surgeon for one of the kids and another needs driving classes and marching band fees.

Then college tuition for one or two is due along with living expenses and I just got my first traffic ticket in 30-some years.

I know better than to worry about money. I know that what you do is you pray about it and then you get busy getting busy.

Selling stuff. Working for people. Applying for jobs.

You make stuff instead of buy it. You put off everything that isn’t necessary. You make soup because it “stretches.”

With respect to money, my experience is that “it” always works out. The way I know this is that my 55th birthday is just around the corner and I’m still here so stuff must always work out.

I’m not gonna sugarcoat it – some of those times have been just AWFUL. And, every time I get to this place I can’t help but wonder how I got to this place.

Of course, I KNOW how I got to this place it’s just that, even with the knowing, I’m always just a little surprised.

With respect to money, it’s time to get serious. As I mentioned, that 55th birthday is coming up and I can’t afford too much magical thinking about the future.

Cause I’m responsible for making it. Yes, I know “god’s in charge,” but he/she’s only gonna do for my what I can’t do for myself. And, there’s a whole lot of stuff I can do.

For one thing, I can practice gratitude. Cause, even with my current worry, I’m still in better circumstances than many many people.

I know this. And, oh how I feel for the world.

With respect to my business, I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I didn’t know stuff about business, even though I did really really well in business school. For one thing, I didn’t know that I care more about making a difference than I do about making a living, so I’ve probably focused some on the “wrong” things.

But I’ve had a blast. I have LOVED writing and working for Beautiful You. And, looking back, I don’t know what I would change even if I could.

It’s just that I need to be smarter moving forward. I need to add in those retirement years. Oh, I haven’t been totally remiss with respect to planning, but it’s time to up-level my retirement game.

And make soup.

Yep. Lots and lots of soup.

Happy Holidays, Dearest Ones.

Love, Jen

photo: Thomas Galvez, flickr

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