You know what’s cool about writing?
You can say anything – as long as you don’t care what your reader thinks.
You know what’s also cool about writing?
So, as you can see, there is a conflict there.
Every time I write something for Beautiful You, I try and be as genuinely myself as possible. The problem with that is that, sometimes, some of you aren’t going to dig what I’m saying.
And I know that in advance.
I know the parts that are going to make some of you cringe, or balk, or hit that “unsubscribe” button with a vengeance.
And, I’m going to miss you, cause I gotta say what I gotta say.
But here’s the thing: writing is a lot like life in that, to attract and retain the “right” tribe around you, you need to be a little – okay very – brave.
When you are inauthentic, especially if you’re a pretty good actor, you are going to attract friends and jobs and partners that dig the “you” you are presenting. The you that isn’t you.
Then, you are trapped.
You have to keep pretending to be the inauthentic version of you you’ve presented, or else you might be alone.
When you were behaving inauthentically with people, you were actually making a deal with them – a sort of social contract.
You were saying, “Here I am. This is who I am. Let’s be friends, lovers, coworkers and hang out.”
See what happened here? Beautiful You was the one who kinda sorta completely lied – even if you didn’t know you were doing it at the time.
But now, time is growing short.
Many of us want a New Deal.
So, what to do?
Well, that’s what we’re going to talk about next.
photo: flickr, Joker