Right now, as I’m writing this, I’m back at my college. I’m actually writing this for you from the cafeteria of my own college student union building — where I crammed for many many an exam.
Yep, 35 YEARS later, I’ve brought my son to his own Freshman Orientation at my alma mater — West Virginia University.
It’s pretty weird, honestly. For more than a year, we’ve been working together on this college application journey and I couldn’t believe it when it turned out that he was going to WVU just like his momma. (He’s majoring in Media and Journalism — yep, another storyteller in the family!)
But there’s been another weird part of all of this. Me. Looking Back!!
I’ve spent quite a bit of time comparing what I thought my life was going to look like with how it has actually turned out.
It’s not that I have regrets. I used to, but finally taking a meaningful turn in my own life (and launching Life After Tampons) took care of any lingering sorrows I had.
It was harder than it should have been though. When I finally DETERMINED that it was MY TURN, I really struggled with clarifying what that meant and then finding a pathway to make that happen.
There was simply no pathway or plan or — well, anything — that worked for me.
Believe me, I looked. If you haven’t figured it out already, I’m a complete nerd. I LOVE books, I LOVE strategic planning, I LOVE all of that. I’ve studied all of that — for years.
I’m a bright girl — kinda sorta “first in your class” kinda bright. I looked for a path, I bought every book that looked like it would help.
But nobody had created a Comeback Method that actually WORKED for a woman at the middle of her life. Ultimately, I had to cobble together my own path from bits and pieces that I found from all of that research. My research wasn’t all that different from Dr. Frankenstein’s, now that I think about it.
I couldn’t make changes that stick because nothing I was reading was pointing me to my new reality: being bright had nothing to do with it. I had very real problems with focus, clarity, and pressures from commitments — long-standing commitments like marriage, children, and mortgages, that took huge chunks of time from my efforts to make some headway on my own behalf.
I love all of my people. I’m grateful for all my people. But, by the time I got through with my commitments to my people, I had nothing left.
They say you never step in the same river twice. Well, that’s also true with respect to the mind of a woman at midlife. You never wake up with the same brain twice.
In fact, as it turns out, almost all of the challenges I had ultimately led back to how I THOUGHT about things. Oh my gosh, I didn’t even realize how unhelpful my thinking was.
Three years later, I’m convinced that, while strategy is super-critical, too — creating the strategies that work is only possible when you first work on your midlife mindset.
And it take a while to do that.
So you know what I did? I CREATED a path for us.
Today, I’m announcing our new CHAPTERS program – a year-long program delivered in small monthly Chapters of support. Each month, we will take a deeper focus on one area of midlife mindset.
I’ve created a special page to explain the whole thing to you but basically here’s the gist:
For less than the cost of ONE lunch out a month, you get the tools, support, and strategies you need to change your thinking and your approach to clearing out the wreckage between where you are and where you want to be.
Here’s more about the program: Chapters
My deepest hope is that everything I create for you here at Life After Tampons helps you to make the changes you want to make. It’s all well and good to read and study inspirational stuff. Oh my gosh, how I have benefited from doing just that.
But, it was really a boatload of ACTION that ultimately worked. Let me know what you need, love. Let’s work on this together.
P.S. Here’s the info and registration link.